It seems just as one task ends, five more jump onto our list.
Writing/whining about this in my daily journal, I came to a surprise conclusion...
YES-- we do FINISH. We FINISH a lot!! We just don't celebrate our finishes for very long.
We allow ourselves to see everything we haven't done, instead of all we do.
Imagine if we ran a marathon, and then right before the finish line just walked to our car.
Imagine giving birth to our baby and heading right to the shower to clean up. Never taking that moment to hold her and look into her eyes and say "welcome to this world baby, we did it!!"
Imagine looking into the eyes of a graduating Kindergartener and saying "It's no big deal that you finished this year... you have 15 more to go."
Our baby takes it's first steps and we just roll our eyes and tell him he has so much more to learn.
No clapping the first time our child rides his bike.
And, we have help feeling like failures. Satan knows he can't stop a good woman. He can't get us to SIN, so he tries to keep us miserable in our GOODNESS. And, it works. I hate that. I hate when I KNOW i'm doing good things, and negative, discouraging thoughts begin to plague me. I'm the queen of looking backward-- Yeah, my house is organized today, but why has it taken me 15 years to figure this out? Or, looking forward-- The closets are done, now I need to repaint and redecorate and organize the garage and figure out my picture albums, and... it's NEVER going to be done... NEVER.
These thoughts do not come from God.
I love this quote from the book "To the Rescue, The Biography of Thomas S. Monson." (I am LOVING this book.) He says,
"Success is contingent upon our effective use of the time given us. When we cease peering BACKWARDS into the mists of our path and craning FORWARD into the fog that shrouds the future and concentrate on DOING what lies clearly at hand, then we are making the best, happiest use of our time."I love this... just do the next right thing. That's it. I like to start with an idea of where i'm heading... but my "to do" lists often discourage me and distract me. Instead, I just ask myself... what is bugging me most today... then I try to do something about it. I've been surprised to find that it takes MUCH longer to avoid a job then it does to just do it. Remember i told you, Organization is 100% mental. Really we need to celebrate every cross off of our to do list. Every one. Maybe time ourselves... FINISH a task and just look at it... for 60 seconds, and tell yourself "GREAT JOB." Pray to feel the joy of finishing. Wait for it. Don't start another task until you really enjoy that FINISHED feeling.
(Can you imagine it? Our kids find us hiding in the bathroom. "What are you doing Mom?" "Oh, just waiting." "For what?" "For that feeling of peace that comes when I FINISH a task." "Why are you in the bathroom?" "Because the mess in the hallway distracts my joy hormones." Hah! I'm totally going to try this.)
So, today... CELEBRATE your FINISHES.
Pick ONE thing. DO IT. Then CELEBRATE.
Praise your husband for something he did that was great.
Tell them what you FINISHED. Bask in the JOY of a completed task.
Don't let anyone take that feeling from you.
Can you feel it?
Cause, I think you're GREAT!!
And, I'm great too... just sayin.
Here is a beautiful talk about FINISHING...
"From the very beginning to the present time, a fundamental question remains to be answered by each who runs the race of life. Shall I falter or shall I finish? On the answer await the blessings of joy and happiness here in mortalityeternal life in the world to come."
President Thomas S. Monson