This is me, trying to take a picture of an overhead quote. Haha. Dork.
I am saturated with goodness and it feels so good.
Yesterday, I spent the day with my cute cousin Tami.
I should have taken some iPhone pictures of our little ice cream social last night. I just loved it. The ladies there felt like sisters. Women have such a great ability to love and lift one another. All of the women there were Mormon mothers. Our lives are all different. Not one of us have escaped refining trials. And oh the depth of wisdom that was there in that sweet home. Not a repressed woman in the bunch. I really like women.
(Thanks again Christina for hosting- you're a sweetie.)
I keep trying to share things I'm learning so you can all feel what I'm feeling. The truth is, you don't really "learn" much, you just remember things you already know are true.
Trust building precedes problem solving.
A quiet answer turneth away wrath.
It's better to parent the kid we have and not the kid we want to have.
It isn't about raising your voice, yelling, drama, but it is about authority and conviction.
I went to one class called- "the husband whisperer". I loved it-- because I know this. I have learned to be a child whisperer. When I'm getting upset, I go down not up. I need to be better at doing this with my best husband.
What does God's voice sound like?
It was a still voice of perfect mildness as if it had been a whisper, and it did pierce to the very soul.
The Earth shook...
As our nature becomes like his, we will whisper more often.
What whispering is not--
Weak, wimpy, subservient, self demeaning, self loathing, doormat-ish
1- warm, firm voice
2- physical contact
3- eye contact
When the yelling starts-- WALK AWAY.
Yelling is assaultive to the soul.
It's harmful to us.
It demeans us and tares us apart.
::"If you need to say this, say it again, just softer." To teenagers!!!
Anger- always 2nd emotion
Fear or Pain- primary emotion
When you did that you really hurt me- lower your voice, look in the eye, whisper-- I'm afraid, I'm hurt, I need you to do something different
I loved, loved this long quote from CS Lewis, "Living in an Atomic Age". I think it relates to most of our worries--
"In one way we think a great deal too much of the atomic bomb. "How are we to live in an atomic age?" I am tempted to reply: "Why, as you would have lived in the sixteenth century when the plague visited London almost every year, or as you would have lived in a Viking age when raiders from Scandinavia might land and cut your throat any night; or indeed, as you are already living in an age of cancer, an age of syphilis, an age of paralysis, an age of air raids, an age of railway accidents, an age of motor accidents."
"In other words, do not let us begin by exaggerating the novelty of our situation. Believe me, dear sir or madam, you and all whom you love were already sentenced to death before the atomic bomb was invented: and quite a high percentage of us were going to die in unpleasant ways. We had, indeed, one very great advantage over our ancestors - anaesthetics; but we have that still. It is perfectly ridiculous to go about whimpering and drawing long faces because the scientists have added one more chance of painful and premature death to a world which already bristled with such chances and in which death itself was not a chance at all, but a certainty."
"This is the first point to be made: and the first action to be taken is to pull ourselves together. If we are all going to be destroyed by an atomic bomb, let that bomb when it comes find us doing sensible and human things - praying, working, teaching, reading, listening to music, bathing the children, playing tennis, chatting to our friends over a pint and a game of darts - not huddled together like frightened sheep and thinking about bombs. They may break our bodies (a microbe can do that) but they need not dominate our minds."