the mundane tasks of life.

months ago i spoke with a friend who is a working mother.

she wanted to quit her job to become a "stay-at-home" mother.

we had many conversations about why i choose to stay at home

and what i do all day.

she said, "I'm NOT going to quit my job and stay at home so i can clean my house all day."

oh how this sentence has echoed in my mind...

it's as i've found myself apologizing for every moment i stay at home and clean.

i've pondered what "great thing" i should be doing INSTEAD of home-work.

why do i choose to stay at home?

what do i do all day?

am i making the most of the time i have been given?

am i blessing my family more by staying at home than i could if i went to work and contributed financially?

i have come to appreciate the fact that i am at home and i can clean my house all day-

if i choose to do that.

there is joy in the mundane tasks of life.

"the humdrum tasks that leave your body occupied and your mind un-fettered"

often as i work, i teach my little ones.

i carry on a running dialog with them about why i'm putting corn starch on the baby's bottom
or how i'm choosing to wash a certain dish.
sometimes leah says, "Why are you telling me this mom?"

then she laughs and says, "Oh, because i'm going to be a mother too someday?"

yes, someday my girls may be mothers. 
mothers like me who stay at home.
they might work.
they might never marry.
they may never be able to have children.
they may choose not to have children.
but whatever life offers them, one thing will be sure.
they WILL always have mundane tasks of life.
eating, cleaning, dressing, washing, bathing...  they are universal.
we can try to avoid these tasks.
we can resent the time they take.
OR
we can learn to find peace in the doing.

i believe that often, mothers who work appreciate the mundane tasks a little bit more.

i have spoken to many who would LOVE to have an afternoon to make cookies with their kids, watch a movie and gently fold laundry.
i feel blessed to choose how i spend my hours each day.
it is a sacred stewardship.

{i LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this talk-- Forget Me Not by Elder Uchdorf}

"So many people today are waiting for their own golden ticket—the ticket that they believe holds the key to the happiness they have always dreamed about. For some, the golden ticket may be a perfect marriage; for others, a magazine-cover home or perhaps freedom from stress or worry.

There is nothing wrong with righteous yearnings—we hope and seek after things that are “virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy.” The problem comes when we put our happiness on hold as we wait for some future event—our golden ticket—to appear."  Elder Uchdorf

Someday my home managment will take less of my time.

until then, i am going to EMBRACE THE EXPERIENCE.

to be grateful for the hours i have at home.

to learn while i clean.

to be slow and involve those around me.

Mundane tasks (like cooking, laundry, reading, walking the dog, bathing, straightening, etc) slow life down and help us keep balanced. These tasks are good physical indicators when we are doing too much or too little.


i LOVE this paragraph from a book i'm reading called Buddha Standard Time.
After spending over 10 years in Retreats and Indian Buddhist meditation retreats, the author returned to his life in New York City... He says,
"As I began to adjust to a Western lifestyle after so long in monastic simplicity, what struck me more than anything else was the NEW AVERSION TO THE MUNDANE TASKS OF DAILY LIFE. Thus the ubiquitous time-saving tools-- instant coffee, fast food, ATMs, microwave ovens, personal computers-- as if somehow life would be better if we could speed our way through it. That message has only escalated since then. These days, young people tell me that they don't even have time for cell-phone conversations or e-mails. They prefer to text. The instant response that new technology allows has altered our perception of time. And ironically, most of us seem to feel we have far less time as a result." p.2.

and, i love this quote...
“Some mothers in today's world feel "cumbered" by home duties and are thus attracted by other more "romantic" challenges. Such women could make the same error of perspective that Martha made. The woman, for instance, who deserts the cradle in order to help defend civilization against the barbarians may well later meet, among the barbarians, her own neglected child.”
― Neal A. Maxwell, Wherefore, Ye Must Press Forward

we all work.
some of us are at home more than others...
WHATEVER you do with you daytime hours--
i hope you take a moment to really be grateful for the ever present, repetitive tasks of life that bring you home.
i know there is joy in the mundane tasks of life.
i've learned this through MUCH experience.
and, one of the BEST things about the mundane tasks of life...

they wait for you.

so, if you do not choose to do them today-- they'll be there tomorrow!

life is good.

today, i'm grateful for dishes.

{sort of.}

o tannenbaum.

2:45 pm. :: wake little girls up from naps.

3:00 pm. :: pick bigger kids up from middle school.

3:30 pm. :: drew- basketball at middle school.

4:00 pm. :: anna and ellie- knitting at the church.

4:30 pm. :: mom, eve, lily- drop fake bread off at the Stake Center for their Creche' Exhibit.

(remember last year, miss my sweet friends in Texas)

5:00 pm. :: pick girls up from church... say a prayer that basketball goes a little over, drew hates being picked up late.

5:10 pm. :: pick drew up from basketball... he said he was only waiting for "like 30 seconds" {grateful}.
5:20 pm. :: pull into garage-- coax the professor to come into the car for a Christmas tree adventure.
5:30 pm. :: head to McDounalds to get Drew two double cheeseburgers and two "large" waters.  Cost $3.30.  The Professor is upset.  A McDouble costs only $1 (same as a double cheeseburger with only ONE piece of cheese), and a regular water is FREE.  (who knew?!)  I was NOT about to change my order at the second window.  Donate $1.30 for McDonalds drive through peace.  (Drew shares bites with all the other kids... they are promised frozen ravioli for dinner!)
5:40 pm. :: Found the tree farm on Philomath main street that i had never seen before, but heard about.  (Only had to turn around twice.)
PITCH BLACK outside.
5:41 pm. :: sat in the car while the professor tried to encourage us to go home and get a tree another day...  so glad the owner came out and laughed when I said we were here to cut down a tree...
5:50 pm. :: waited while the owner found us some flash lights.

5:51 pm. :: found the PERFECT tree-- we're not picky... just wanted BIG, not too expensive ($15), and pretty.

6:00 pm. :: cut, dragged, wrapped and loaded our little bunch of Christmas cheer.

6:10 pm. :: dropped drew off at the Church for scouts.

6:20 pm. :: home, fed the baby, started dinner, unloaded the tree.

6:50 pm. :: ate dinner.

7:00 pm. :: the professor and jakob head to youth night.

7:10 pm. :: mom and the girls go pick up drew.

dishes, bed time. 

visions of sugar plums.

morning comes.

the house smells like fresh pine.

another day begins...

life is good.

don't you love her?

our sweet tree...

do you wonder why she isn't in the center of the picture?

well, you can't really have a post about Christmas trees, and include our Thanksgiving pumpkins?!
(tell me i can just throw them away WITHOUT roasting them and making homemade pumpkin pie...)
tis the season!!

grocery shopping, lunches, and meal preparation... oh my!

truth-

grocery shopping, lunches, and meal preparation have been ruling my life.

-i have seven kids who eat a lot.

-i'm packing lunches every day, which i've never done before.
(wow- this sure adds to my grocery list!)
-i live in a small town and have to drive a long way to the grocery store.
(we have NO walmart or target or costco or sams-- unless i'm willing to drive an hour.  note- people say it isn't that long, but they lie.  they are just used to driving FOREVER around here.)
blah.
-i'm in a new house and starting over with organization.
(can i add twenty exclamation points here?) 

starting over with a new house to organize is harder than i thought it would be!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

-we're just coming out of five years of famine where we used much our food storage.

(we're trying to rebuild to have some in store for glen beck's end of the world.  it's coming!)

this month i'm focusing on creating ROUTINES to help with daily decision making.
ROUTINES are essential for a highly effective home.
maybe most people are fine just winging it.

but my house does not function without some well-established routines.

(establishing new routines keeps me up at night with growing pains.)
I AM NOT A NATURAL SYSTEMS PERSON.
i repeat.
THIS DOES NOT COME NATURAL TO ME.
i am a carefree, free spirited, CREATIVE person.

I HATE USING A LIST AT THE GROCERY STORE.

i like to browse and try new things.  i like random, unique, weird foods.
i have to force myself to repeat recipes.

But, this is something that just must be done for my peace of mind. 

Hopefully I can maintain my creative, fun foodiness with a bit of a system.

Meal PLAN.
1.  I have a system for meals-- Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner.
Sunday:: B-Box Cereal, L-Misc, D-Fancier
Monday:: B-Oats/Smoothie, L- PBJorH Sandwich, D- Italian
Tuesday:: B-Biscuits n gravy/OJ, L- Wrap/Salad, D- Soup n Bread

Wednesday:: B- Eggs/Smoothie, L- Meat Sandwich, D- Salad or Potato Bar

Thursday:: B-Pancakes/Waffles/FrenchToast/OJ, L-Lunchables (homemade), D-Chinese or Mexican
Friday:: B- Granola (homemade)/Smoothie, L- PBJorH/buy school, D- Pizza-ish (homemade) with soda.
Saturday:: B- Box Cereal, L-Misc., D- Leftovers/Quick

There are things that are hidden in my system. 
-- A disclaimer-  I NEVER stick to my meal plan.
-- I repeat, I have NEVER, in 14+ years of marriage, made all the meals in one week that I plan for. 
BUT, I do make meals and use the ingredients I have purchased.  Sometimes, I plan for 7 days and don't make it to the store for 10 days... we're still fine.  My menu is a starting point.
-- I even edit as I'm shopping.  If I say ham but pork loin is on sale, I just cross ham off my list and write in pork loin.
-- I plan in excel so I have a record of each month.

-- I have one tab for the month calendar, and one tab for my shopping list.  On my shopping list I mark week 1, 2, 3, or 4 and a month total.  So, if i'm in a hurry I can just get the one week things and pick up the other weeks later.

--When i'm planning meals, I usually plan one or more per week for company.  I mark that with  ** next to the meal.

-- We have oatmeal (usually steel cut oats) on Monday morning.  On Tuesday (soup day), I make wheat bread (or plan to).  I like to dump the leftover oatmeal into my bread.

-- On Monday we have italian.  I like to combine ground beef with ground italian sausage for the meat.  We don't use a lot of meat, so I usually take out a ziploc full and we use that meat (already cooked) for biscuits and gravy the next day.  (I just use refrigerator biscuits.)  My kids love that breakfast.

--  I always have a big container of homemade granola-- if we are running late and don't cook a hot breakfast, we just have granola.
-- My husband takes leftovers for lunch. 
-- Saturday is always our leftover or frozen food (chicken nuggets/tater tots) day.

-- We drink milk, water, or crystal light for dinner every night.  Just water during the day.  I try to get soda for movie night on Fridays and one other juice for Sunday dinner.

-- I cannot cook the same meals over and over.  It is against my nature.  But, I can cook meals with the same ingredients.  Example-- This month on Italian Monday, I planned ziti, lasagna, spaghetti, and eggplant Parmesan.  This month on Pizza Friday, I planned pizza rolls, calzones, and pizza.
-- I do NOT use coupons.  I do shop sales when I see them. 
--I mainly go to one store, but I have some specialty stores that I go to once a month.

Planning for ONE MONTH.

For many years, I have planned my meals one week at a time. 
I use this sheet for the month...

And, this sheet for the week (i found them both online... i need to look up the source because i love them).

I write my meals and my groceries and I head to the store.

I usually spend under $300 per week- including food and diapers and household stuff.

Planning the meals usually takes me over an hour. 

And, the actual shopping takes me a good three hours round trip.

I'm not sure why-- but I really spend a lot of time planning. 

And, shopping is just exhausting.

**I have gotten to the point where I really could not go shopping (even for one week) by myself with my three toddlers who I have home with me all day.  I have been doing it... but it sure is hard.

And, I don't really have enough time to go with my two youngest while leah was at preschool for 2.5 hours.

A few times I've had to beg people to help me bag and load groceries in my car as I was imagining my little preschooler waiting all alone for me to show up.

shopping was making me CUH-RA-ZEE!!

I had an idea that it wouldn't take me much more time to plan a whole month in one sitting.

My goal is to do ONE big shopping trip at the beginning of the month, and just a small "special things" trip weekly.

I have had to bring a couple of my older kids shopping with me for the big trip.

We used two carts- they each pushed one, and mainly just got the same stuff I usually bought in bigger quantities.

It was a big shopping trip-- but very possible and SO worth it.

This week I shopped for the next THREE weeks (till the end of November) and I spent $475. 

I'm guessing I'll spend about $100 per week on my smaller trips.
{I was pleasantly surprised at how much less I spent because seriously, i bought tons of stuff.  I felt like I was buying so much more storage items than i usually buy.  hmm?}

I can manage smaller trips with my three little girls and actually have fun together at the store.

And, I feel like I have more substance to my pantry.

I bought things big, like a 50lb bag of white flour, and a 50lb bag of wheat flour.

I spent last night reorganizing my cupboards... my goal is more "centered" living.

I want a place for baking, a place for cans, a place for lunch preparations, a place for putting away leftovers.

It's COMING!!  And, i'm so excited.
I should have gotten my PhD in GROCERY MANAGEMENT.  seriously.

The Lunch Center.
My favorite addition is my LUNCH CENTER.

Because I bought stuff for one month, I ended up dividing everything out into little snack bags.

I use individual Tupperware for their fruit/veggies or fridge things each day...

but the snack bags worked great for dividing out one sugary treat per day (like gummy bears), and one starchy snack (like pretzels). 

All of my kids have snack breaks during class- even my middle school kids.

I made five different snacks and treats (two for each day) times four kids and put them in big ziplocs marked ONE WEEK. (Yup- one week = 40 snack bags.  crazy.)

I did this four times-- for the whole month. 

(I stuck the gallon sized bags in the back of the shelf and just poured one week of snacks in the Tupperware.)
You can see my whole shelf below... Snacks, Treats, Sandwich Fixins.

My friend (with 7 boys) lets them pick one homemade snack per day.  She makes batches of cookies, or bars, or brownies, and freezes them in individual baggies.  Each morning her kids grab a snack from the freezer, a fruit, and make themselves sandwiches.

I was actually surprised how many snacks I got... over a month's worth.

I made the portions small-- I just want them to have a small treat, but fill up on healthy things.
Because I don't usually pre-portion things out, I usually use more snacks.

I feel so at peace knowing for ONE MONTH, all I have to worry about at lunch time is a sandwich and a fresh fruit/veggie/egg.

The boxes of snack bags that I use do bug me-- I hate all that trash.

someday I may sew tiny bags or something fun, but for now this works for me.

I'm going to Capri-Suns for their drinks.
They're 100% juice, cheap and easy.
We've been using water bottles and THEY DRIVE ME CRAZY.
We've bought many different kinds-- and they ALL leak or spill all over my kids' backpacks and homework papers or lunches.
I know that if they were better at closing the lids, this wouldn't happen.
But, they're not and I'm sick of them being all soggy or having to carry their water bottle's separately when they are already carrying a backpack, an instrument, a bag for sports, etc., etc..
Capri-Suns it is. Unless you have a better idea.
Unless you have another great idea.

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE my new lunch preparation area.

Everything is there, and it's right next to the bread box, and the refrigerator.

Kids can easily make a sandwich, put their fruit/veggie/egg into a Tupperware, grab a snack, grab a treat, grab a drink and GO!! 

The Baking Center.

I bought bulk and my friend gave me these little buckets.
I buy most of my baking stuff in bulk and pour them into my containers.

I just labeled everything with paper i already had and clear moving tape.

It makes me happy...

I keep moving things around. 

My kitchen doesn't have a good spot for pots (your supposed to hang them and i don't want to.) 

My kitchen also doesn't have a walk in pantry.  There are a lot of cabinets in the laundry room, but no big storage.

I keep rearranging things.

But, by jove i think i'm going to figure this kitchen out!

The Canning Center.
We did a little canning this year.

When we would finish a jar, we usually had the empty container sitting on our counter for awhile until I took it out and put it in a box in the garage.

Now, we have a spot inside for the empty jars and we're a bit more ordered.
I had just stuck the jars on my shelves... with a little more order I can see that I have a heck of a lot of pears.
I didn't realize we had that many.

The Pantry-ish cabinet.

I really want to get a shelf-reliance shelf from Costco for $300 shipped!

We're saving up.

I have dreams about this shelf all full of my canned goods for a year.

someday...  (SOON!!)

You can laugh at my excessive planning and grand ideas.

Sometimes I laugh at myself.

Most of these ideas I have copied.
I love learning from other people.
and, if nothing else, this post might make you GRATEFUL you don't have to shop for a family of NINE.

I HOPE that my planning with be helpful- to your family and mine.

I HOPE I can stick to this routine and not feel the need to create another new system next month.
(See that sneaky thing... I am a creator, so I enjoy creating new routines... NOT following old systems.)

Onward and Upward Soldiers... Just marching through another day with these battle plans!!
{insert marine cry here-- what is it?  Hooo Aaaah!!, or something like that}