August 18, 2011
I set my timer for every 15 minutes. And, sit them on the toilet to try and go potty.
I sit right in front of them-- they know I'm comfortable for a long time.
If they are scared or say they can't go... I just hold their hands and tell them I will help them.
Usually I don't look at them, I just hold their hands and look to the side and whisper "Shhh, it's coming."
I tell them they have to be very quiet and listen for it to come, sometimes I make pushing noises to help them get the poop out.
If they try (meaning they stop crying or talking and try to push) and it won't come out, I say "it's ok, we'll try in a few minutes."
I don't give them tons of praise for dry panties or for times that they sit on the potty without going.
My favorite reward-- praise!!!
[I love the potty dance-- just an excited mommy and brothers/sisiters singing "you went potty!" while dancing around.]
When they have an accident I have a calm, negative voice, "Oh no... What happened? Why did you make this mess."
And, I ALWAYS make THEM clean it up.
I make them help take off their wet panties and wipe up the floor or clean the carpet.
Hopefully, this is a miserable thing for them and they are whining and saying "I can't, it's too hard."
If I am consistent, with the timer, I can USUALLY get one great success within the first day.
Then, I build on the success. When they say, "I can't go potty." I just remind them in a fully confidant, happy voice, "Yes you can, remember yesterday."
3. I am SO excited for this child to have success that I HAVE to stick with it. I am not a nice mother if I let my conflicted child have her diaper back, I am a nice mother if I teach her how to have SUCCESS in her new goal.
I try to get rid of diapers all together... meaning I try not to put a diaper on for naps or bed.
(For sure once they are going potty when I put them on the toilet, I stop diapers.)
If they have day time accidents- I just revert to my timer.
It's more a matter of ME being trained to remind them and take them.
Night time accidents- I think this is a different story.
Most of my kids have gone from very wet night time diapers to completely dry panties the day they were potty trained. No night-time accidents ever.
I have had two children that have had night time accidents-- for a long time.
Because I heard stories from my mother in law, I believe night time wetting is genetic.
I NEVER got upset. And, I didn't use pull-ups on a regular basis.
It wasn't a big deal, and eventually they grew out of it.
This week-- my Lily Grace became a big girl!!
She is SOO excited.
And, I am so proud of her.
I LOVE watching my children become...
but oh how her toddler-ness is slipping away and being replaced by a sweet, big girl.